when we spend so much time speaking of the things that we do not want, we don't spend enough time figuring out the things that we do want. where we want our lives to go, how we want that journey to be made, and how we want to be thought of. the negativity that keeps showing up in our lives, whether we realize it or not, will have an impact on our every day lives.

i was speaking with a friend, and we began to talk about the person she feels she wants to be with, and she kept saying over and over again "i've done with before, i know what i don't want, i'm pretty sure what i need, and yet, all the things i don't want keep staring me in the face." and it's true!!! it is so very true! she doesn't know what she needs. all she knows is what she doesn't want in a man. but the reality is that the things we think about the most often, those dynamic behind those things- whether positive or negative- is the energy we will breed into our lives. she's always on the look out for the man she doesn't want, so that he won't pop up, but never on the look on the look out for what she does what. what she does want has stared her in the face so many times, and it's sad, because she's a "nit picker", and all she will do is take a perfectly good man and tear them down... and yet, somehow, they are all still drawn to her. they tell me often. and it's cute and sweet, quite admirable actually, but none the less, they are all quite attached to her. and its not that she's a bad person, because she isn't, but i believe that they are all attracted to her because she doesn't want them in her life. its hard to shake those traits when you can't truly get them off of your mind...

all this to say, the things you think about the most, whether they are positive or negative, are the things that will come to pass. your thoughts have a voice, and for those religious people out there, that voice is speaking things into exisitence. my idea structure tells me that God gave us the power to control our own universe. we as humans were set higher than animals for this very purpose, and that we were sent here to take care of the world that has been given to us by God, and because of that we can edify and bring to life the words that we speak, because we have God in us. don't ask me to quote the scripture right now, but i'm almost positive its in james. i'll look it up, check it later.

anyhoo, since this is MY blog where i put MY thoughts, i'm gonna be spending some time exploring my wants as opposed to my not wants. call me selfish, but sometimes, you gotta find out what you want so that you know what to ask for.

thanks for reading, chickadees. :)